Dealing With a Flirting Partner

Francis Githinji asked:


Flirting is fun and almost everyone indulges in it. By everyone i mean even married and people who are in committed relationships. It is just a simple way of telling the other person that you find them attractive and maybe you would like to be their friends. It is a way of asking someone in a nice way to be your friend. However, many partners have a problem with their flirting partner. This is because to them it could mean that their partners do not love them enough or that they do not find them attractive enough, the reason for their flirting. If you are the kind of person who feels bad about your partner flirting then you are in so much trouble because flirting might not be on its way out very soon. Your partner could still flirt when you are not watching, instead try to understand why your partner is flirting.

There are several reasons that could make your partner flirt. Some of these reasons include self confidence.  Your partner could be having a lot of self confidence and the good news is that, this is what attracted you to them in the first place. They still want to express their self confidence in many ways and flirting could be their weapon of choice. Do yourself a favor and stop thinking of how you are going to make your partner stop flirting and do some flirting yourself. Flirting can do a lot of good to a relationship. If you get jealous when you see your partner flirting it means you love them, and when your partner feels good from flirting you can be sure it will be reflected in your relationship. Flirting partners make a relationship more interesting.

Lastly, Tell your flirting partner what you feel when he or she flirts. Remember your partner is not an angle to know you are hurting, if you never tell him or her he might never know and it might continue well until you can take no more and hence break the relationship. Talking about a problem is always the first step to solving anything and dealing with anything. Lastly accept that your partner flirts and that does not mean that he or she loves you any less, it could be his or here way of making sure that they are still desirable to other people other than you. Give your partner the space they need to flirt, if you do not like it avoid being in the same place as your partner where you know they are definitely going to flirt like the parties. Do not watch your partner like a hawk; you will only push them away from you.

Flirting is supposed to be fun, and just because you have a flirting partner, it does not mean that they are cheating on you or that they are planning to do just that though it could. Your partner is having fun and if you were open about what is acceptable and what is not you could see that it is just harmless fun that you need not worry about and break a relationship over.



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